life right now: big picture= amazing, small picture= hard
my man's in a very challenging and time-consuming graduate program so i have been on my own a bit too much with 3 kids in a tiny house, homeschooling, and lately some challenging behaviour: an unusual period of outright rebellion from my middle guy and fighting between the brothers. and as usual, my idea of what i can accomplish is staggeringly far from reality.
both books emphasize accepting and empathizing with your child's feelings without trying to change them- and then give you helpful strategies to change the problem behaviour that stems from those feelings. i wasn't aware of just how often i minimize a child's feelings to try to make him feel better- 'don't worry, it will work out next time' or 'you weren't even using it, what's the big deal?' instead of simply acknowledging his feelings. i know i hate it when someone tries to talk me out of feeling how i'm feeling, why should he be any different? it's early days, but i really think what i have learned in these books is helping our household feel a bit more peaceful.
all i can say is 'winter holidays!' and 'thank you for these 2 books'